Saturday, August 19, 2017

Lessons In Life

"Wasn't ____ your bestie?" Her words spilled out of her mouth after a girl who had a 'suicide'-esque online scare rattled everyone in the community appeared back in my life briefly just to disappear after spending a short amount of time together.

I never go into relationships with someone with bestie right off the bat, while some have done so to me without either of us EARNING that title (beyond the makeup, beyond parties, beyond the superficial) as if we are 4 years old. Why would I want a fair weather friend bestie that runs over boundaries , who is two-faced, ready to speak mean things in my face away from social media and screenshots and at the ready to do dirty shit to get back at me for someone else? Who really isn't there for me other than in my selfies? Who tells me that they do not care about my problems after listening to them whine about their things? Who make rape jokes and I have a black friend jokes? Who idealizes me and does not take me for the human that I am? Who thinks that if we spent some time together, they can fake it for social media.

A blossoming friendship =/= besties
A person who does not respect your boundaries, who does not respect you =/= a real friend (not the social media 'friend in your list', or superficial friend that you meet at a bar when everyone is inebriated. )

BUT! Being around these people, with blogging and event making at the FOREFRONT (we were event makers...kind of), I can see where I went wrong. I never questioned the 'bestie' thing, and I never held these people that came too quickly in my life accountable for the shitty and disrespectful things they said or even did to other people. My heart and arms were open for them as if they were new members of my family.... Or as if I was their shoulder to cry on.

For Soft Spoken people and they Shy People:
I am a bit soft-spoken (and I try to overlook things that don't need a response), and that does wayyy more harm than good. Continuing to be around people who hurt you has only done more harm than good. Giving people the benefit of the doubt to people who use you as a punching bag because you don't say anything back does more harm than good. Continuing to work for a person who fucked over an indie artist and video maker's work does more harm than good (and just not what I stand for. ) And because of these people, these teachers if you will, I learned a lot!

People will fuck you over if you don't tell them how to behave (who knew you had to teach an "adult" how to act?)

Friday, February 3, 2017

Mini Makeup Haul

I haven't done a lot of hauls after post college it seems, but here is another one.
I went shopping one day, and decided to grab a few things to try out.
I usually use brow pencils for my brows but decided to dip my toe into the magical world of eyebrow makeup! I missed the brow mascara craze back in 2011 or so when some gyaru would use it on their brows.

gyaru makeup haul, Chicago gyaru Lisha tries new stuff ,e.l.f.

I tried out e.l.f.'s brow kit from Target. Though at times I can't get a very clean cut look with my brows like the pics on Instagram, the kit does a decent job. On no foundation and minimal makeup days, my brows look pretty natural and I'm happy.

Now on to the eyebrow shaping kit... I am not pleased. The scissors are ok at best and a little clumsy, the brush is too stiff and I just have no use for the comb. The attachment to the scissors weren't beneficial at all so they were tossed. The tweezers didn't provide enough grip and I ended up using them for lash application. Thank goodness I have a pair of tweezers that work or I'd be s.o.l.
Until next time! 

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Friday, January 27, 2017

Skin Care

With us doing make up from a few days a week to nearly every day, it is very important to treat your skin nice in between you wearing your make up. Here are some tips for you!

1.       Don’t: Skipping the water. Going just for juices loaded with sugar, sodas and adult beverages.
Do: Hydrate, hydrate, HYDRATE with water and natural juices!
Why: Hydration is super important for the cells in your body, not just your face! Being dehydrated causes the skin to dry out, causing wrinkles and looking dull.
*Alcohol dehydrates you and you need to make up the water that is lost.

2.       Don’t: Sleeping in your make up!
Do: Clean!
Why: Depending on your make up usage and how long you wear it during the day, PLUS keeping it on as you sleep prevents your skin from breathing.  This causes and or helps break outs, and aging of the skin.
After every night, before you close your eyes and dream of your next cute code for an event, meet up or general outing, remove your lashes, lens and make up with a gentle cleanser suited for your skin type.

3.       Don’t: Not exfoliating.
Do: Exfoliating gently.
Why: Exfoliating with a gentle exfoliating cleanser  sloughs off the dead skin on top of the new skin that makes you look dull and dry.
*However, doing this too much or too rough will damage the skin instead!

4.       Don’t: Not wearing an appropriate sunscreen or moisturizing.
DO: Wearing an appropriate sunscreen and moisturizer daily.
Why: Applying an appropriate sunscreen before your foundation will help block some of the UV rays from your skin while you are out and about. Moisturizing before you put on your make up and after helps keeps your skin supple, soft and smooth especially if you are weathering harsh winter temperatures.

5.       Don’t: Eating bad foods regularly. Not eating your veggies.
Do: Eat a healthy and balanced diet and take your vitamins.
Why: Eating bad foods do not give you the nourishment you need to have healthy looking skin. Eating lean meats and fish, and lots of veggies and fruits is best!
Taking a boost of vitamins and supplements not just for the health benefits can help your skin and hair grow! Who wouldn’t want that!? You can also add in collagen pills to your vitamin regiment to help give you a little boost with your skin care.

6.       Don’t:  Frowning, being angry and stressed.
Do: Meditate and calm down.
Why: Being able to calm yourself down is very important. When you are stressed out, it manifests in your body. You don’t want to be so stressed out that you are constantly frowning or furrowing your brows, causing wrinkles over time. Center yourself, breathe, and get that inner peace! Doing yoga or working out for about 30min a day can help expend some of that restless energy. You can also make yourself a nice warm bath with bath salts or bath bombs to relax in too!

                Thank you for reading and stay tuned! Comments are always appreciated!

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